Preparing for Christmas

This is a bit of a weird Christmas season. There is very little snow, and it is warmer than normal. I also see my children growing up and spending less and less time at home as we attempt to pull together a holiday celebration.

Earlier this week, I finished my Christmas shopping and got most of the gifts wrapped and placed under our tree. Kayleigh was great in spearheading the tree decoration and even buying new ornaments for the tree.

This year, I have not been so stressed in buying and presenting big gifts for the kids. We had a small budget for their gifts, and ultimately only got things they need. I hope the kids understand that this season is really about remembering the birth of Jesus Christ and love for one another. To me, this holiday is mostly about family and maintaining that important relationship between family members. We spend most of our time together on Christmas eating and talking with family and friends. We should not spend the majority of our time fawning over gifts and wishing we had more.

I hope this holiday season brings happiness and good family relationships to you. I hope you remember the real reason for this season and try to avoid the commodification of Christmas. Ultimately, I wish you a Merry Christmas!

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Grad School and Being a Mom

I had a very busy semester and a difficult experience with my youngest daughter the past few months. I just finished my last semester of coursework. That really should have happened a couple of years ago in my old Ph.D. program, but I have now really finished. However, this semester was 12 credit hours rather than the usual full time 9 hours. The reading alone took a lot of time. I am glad that is over.

I think I have also grown as a Mom. My youngest daughter has made some decision that will do her no good, so my husband and I have really worried about her. I am still working to help her to make sure she can graduate from high school. I hope it all works out. Time will tell.

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Whoa! A flash flood that tore up my neighborhood streets

Heavy rain hit at 3:30PM on Tuesday. A total of 1.37 inches fell in my neighborhood during one hour. This not only overwhelmed the sewage system. This created buckled roads and a sinkhole under major road intersections right around my home.

My home is locked in a neighborhood locked with only a couple of ways out, and most of those roads lead directly to the damaged, closed areas. Even getting home is a pain because the roads are clogged with cars trying to get around the damaged roads. I was in my car so long yesterday that my right foot cramped up and driving was a pain. Yike! I guess I look forward to road repair and at least one lane to drive through.

*Photos from KSL TV video footage.

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It is sometimes difficult to be a Mom while being a doctoral student

Lately, I have been very worried about my youngest daughter. She is struggling with some important life decisions, and she has pulled away from us and becoming more dependent on her girlfriends. This has stressed her out and caused her to be a bit grumpy once in a while at home. In fact, it became downright difficult to live with her for a couple of days. This is a problem because I worry a great deal about her welfare. So much worry prevents me from the heavy thinking required in doctoral work.

I spend a lot of time being a graduate student. I spend hours studying and writing. I spend even more time reading and reading. Make no mistake: a doctoral program requires a total commitment and a lot of time. This is especially true the latter part of a doctoral program. During the first part of the program, I could get away with going to school part time and doing a little research. Now that I am ramping up to comprehensive exams during Spring semester 2012, I need to spend my summer studying and working to get a couple of papers published.

I have all these student responsibilities while I must also spend time raising my family and helping my kids to navigate the “adventure” of growing up. In a blog post on May 9, 2009, I told you all that I am not a super mom. That is still the case. I am doing the best I can, but that does not mean I am awesome as a mother. I just pray that I can do the best possible for my kids and that they turn out happy and healthy.

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Time to work in the garden

Time to work in the garden

Now that I have a little free time, I am working in my garden again. My garden is a favorite past time that has been oft neglected as a graduate student. However, most of my time has been spent working with the vegetable garden getting it prepared and planted. I now have to water it every day and fertilize it every other week. That’s about all I have time for right now because I am studying for my comprehensive exams.

I did decide to pull out my camera and take a few pictures of flowers in my back yard. What I did not notice until I opened the photos in Aperture was that several of my columbines have aphids. Now I have to find time to spray with my organic bug spray and work to kill off those pesky bugs.

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Kayleigh’s Ragnar 2011

Kayleigh's Ragnar 2011

My oldest daughter turned 19 years old two days ago. It is almost hard to believe it has been that long since I first became a mother. But I am so glad I am a mom to three wonderful kids. It is my favorite role, and I love spending time and talking with my children.

After many years of working through successfully completing the tasks required in doctoral level coursework, I have had to get rid of all the detritus that prevented me from spending time with my family. I had to become a faster reader and fast writer. I had to be willing to study at inconvenient times and be willing to drop what I was doing for school so I can help a family member. Granted, it has taken me a lot of time to get to this point. The effort was worth it as I get to spend lots of time with my kids this summer. I am quite happy right now.

I have particularly enjoyed watching Kayleigh’s Facebook posts the past 24 hours about her adventures as she ran in Utah’s Ragnar.

She ran three legs of this Wasatch Back race, totalling 18 miles. Her last leg finished the race for her team (consisting mostly of family members from Ray’s side).

Because it is an overnight race, she has been up for 40 hours, with only 30 minutes nap sometime last night. What little rest she got during the race was spent in a minivan, so her rest was uncomfortable. I hope she sleeps well tonight. She has a big week of finals coming up, and she needs the rest.

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What does advertising really do to our self perception as beautiful women?

I am fortunate to be in a graduate study with a couple of women who study what media has done to destroy women’s self perception. They say that the term ‘beauty’ has been redefined to a look that is impossible to achieve. They have a great blog about their research and their presentations at Beauty-Redefined.net.

I want my daughters to know they are beautiful no matter what stage of life they are in. Their beauty is not determined by their weight or how pretty their hair or makeup is. Their beauty is determined by who they are, their actions, and by the tremendous beauty they enjoy without makeup or fanciness. I want my girls to always be happy with themselves and not have that happiness swayed by advertisements. I will point them to the Kite sister’s tips on how to take back their own beauty perception.

Moveon.org posted the following video of Jean Kilbourne, Ed.D. who argues that advertising has killed women’s perceptions of themselves.

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Aaaaah! Low vitamin D, again?!

My joints are so achy. I am miserable and suspect that my vitamin D is low, again.

This problem is so vexing for me because I do not feel comfortable going outside to get a huge dose of sunshine. I had 50 cancerous spots burned off my hands, arms, and face a couple of months ago. There were so many spots that it took forever for them to heal. I cannot risk further damage to my skin that may cause skin cancer.

So many have commented on my blog that they take a large dose of vitamin every week, rather than a couple of over-the-counter pills every day. I am thinking I may have to go on such a prescription. Can you tell me how you are doing with 50,000 IU per week?

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My preferred Vitamin D pills

My preferred Vitamin D pills

My favorite vitamin D3 pills are found in the organic supplements section of a Kroger grocery store. They are called “Naturally Preferred Vitamin D3″ (1,000 IU). These are wonderful little pills because they digest easily and work like a charm.

I have also been noticing the sustained popularity of my vitamin D blog posts. In this day of sunscreen and trying to avoid skin cancer, a lot of us experience vitamin D deficiency. This terrible deficiency really caused a lot of problems for me. I was recently reminded of this and told my daughter last night about the importance of me taking vitamin D.

I used to have terrible Depression. I took antidepressants that caused all sorts of terrible side effects. Once I lost my full time job a couple of years ago, I could no longer afford those pills. It was the best thing for me, because that is when I discovered that vitamin D was actually taking care of the Depression. I would not recommend anyone else stop taking their antidepressants without close supervision of a doctor and family. I had that. My doctor wishes that vitamin D “fixed” all of her patients, like it did for me. Granted, my asthma is not all fixed, but lots of awful things are fixed. Yay!

But I also have to believe that the training and confidence I have gained from the last six years of graduate study has also helped with my Depression. I am definitely a different, and I believe better, person. I am able to teach large classrooms very difficult concepts, while I work to help students and “change their lives.” My current studies are so good for me and for my future research. I am very grateful for my many opportunities and growth. I am also grateful for organic vitamin D pills.

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Good grades and lots of rain does not equal a weeded garden

Good grades and lots of rain does not equal a weeded garden

I completely avoided my garden during the Spring because I was so busy with going to school full time (as a doctoral student), advising part time, and being a mom as much as possible. The garden and house were way down on my list of priorities.

However, once I quit my job and finished the semester I finally had time to work in the yard. The problem is that it has rained and rained in this desert state. It has rained for weeks, yet we normally have a nice dry period (until winter) around here.

This has created a situation where the weeds are growing like crazy. The above picture is of a giant weed growing in the gravel parking strip to the side of my driveway. It is on the side of my favorite neighbor’s fence. Sorry Buckinghams!

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